Postpartum Body

Tips for being happy with your postpartum body.

In a previous post called “ Am I Stuck With This Body” I wrote about not being pleased with the new body that pregnancy has left me. Prior to pregnancy I didn’t have the best shape in the world, but I did learn to like it and accept it. I was able to wear what I want and look good, life in my closet was great. While I was pregnant, I made a point not to look horrible. I wanted to stay in shape and look great and I was able to accomplish that with the purchase of a few maternity clothes here and there. Now that I am no longer pregnant and the maternity clothes no longer look good on a non-pregnant woman, I don’t have a clue on what to do. My wardrobe consists of two maternity jeans 3 maternity pants, quite a few maternity shirts. What happened to my pre-maternity clothes you may ask, although I still throw them in the mix they are outdated and do not fit the way they use to. Pregnancy has given my body some shape, but has also taken away parts I was very proud of. How can I feel sexy and confident with such an awkward shape? Get an entire new body is one way, but since they don’t have my particular size and shape at the store, I will give you a few tips I used to be satisfied.

It’s Mind Over Matter

The first thing you must do is stop pointing out what was once there and now has gone. I did that all the time. I continued to point out all the stuff that I now have that I do not like because of pregnancy. The funny thing about this is that we are the only ones that see a problem. I hated the “jelly belly” as I call it. But my husband never seemed to notice. My husband constantly told me I did not look like I just had a baby, but I know I did just have one. I see him everyday. Maybe your husband can notice you had a baby, but it really doesn’t matter to him. He loves you regardless and probably even more. With that said, remember it is only you that have a problem with your body. If you become more accepting and more confident in yourself, no one will ever know that you have a horrible postpartum body. To stop pointing out the bad begin to find parts of your body that you like. Stand in front of a mirror naked and look at all the positives that you have. In the mirror I look like I have so many curves and I love it, too bad my husband won’t let me just go out naked, so I tell myself how gorgeous I am and how sexy I look. Begin to search out the positive attributes that your pregnancy has left you with.

Go Shopping

To help you become even happier and confidant in your new body, purchase some new sexy underwear. If you are like me, I know you have some super comfortable granny size pregnancy draws. Yes, it is time to let them go, matter of fact, it is time to let all your underwear go. Buy some fresh new underwear, and make sure they are sexy. Nothing makes a women feel good than a nice pair of sexy undergarments. While you are at it, pick up a set of spanx. I love them. Not only can they aid in making you look smaller, but they make you look neat in your clothes. They can hide the rolls so nicely.
Find Your Style

Now that you have found all the positive parts of your body and you are becoming more and more satisfied with the new you, begin to find your style. I realized that I cannot dress the way I did prior to pregnancy. It just will not look good and I would look like I’m trying to hard. I began searching on the internet for clothes, almost as if I was shopping. I noticed that I did have a certain style that I liked. I also looked at celebrities. What were they wearing when they are not on the red carpet? I decided that Jada Pinket-Smith’s style is pretty similar to what I have been happy with while shopping online. Don’t be afraid to emulate your favorite celebrity, but remember dress according to the occasion, red carpet outfits will look a bit silly at the grocery store. Now that you have found your style and maybe your celebrity inspiration it is time to go shopping. I know, I know, you don’t have the money to buy all the items you need to look as good as you want at least that was my excuse. I realized that I can shop at Burlington, Marshalls, Old Navy, Ross, T.J. Max, just to name a few and get some really good items for a really good price. Also, you don’t have to buy your whole wardrobe or outfit at once. Pick up pieces as you find them and blend them into your current wardrobe while fading out the old, worn, and not needed items.

These are just a few techniques that I have used and am currently using so that I can enjoy my new body. Everyone has various techniques on what they do to become comfortable in their skin. These tips are not set in stone and may not work for everyone, if you cannot use these tips, please remember one thing, stay out of sweats. If you don’t make them apart of your wardrobe you will not get stuck into wearing sweats or yoga pants all the time. Stay sexy ladies!!!!

Felicia is the owner of I Complete Me blog. Focusing on maintaining the “me” in the midst of all life brings us.